I don’t want to have two algorithm based posts back to back but Twitter has been really pissing me the fuck off lately. However, through Twitter’s bad algorithm of showing “posts you’re interested in” I’ve noticed a giant trend that I think is doing a lot of harm to people. I believe the damage it is doing is way bigger than what people think. What’s interesting is the first time I noticed this was from STEM people I followed, but with Twitter’s busted algorithm I’ve noticed it’s much wider spread than I thought. What is it? Encouragement inequality.
Before I continue I’m going to say this from the start. This is not meant to be a “girls have it on easy mode and guys don’t” post. I know people will use it to call me a sexist and use it for sexist arguments. I wanted to get that out of the way before starting. There’s more here then an ItsAGundam video complaining about OnlyFans girls.
What do I mean by encouragement inequality? By this I mean when a woman gets praised for doing something super simple but when a guy does something challenging he is often ignored. I’ve seen this a lot in STEM. I’ve always fucking hated it. Once a girl showed off a “Hello World” program she made. Everyone cheered and praised her for it. Boosting her ego and all sorts of crap. The issue? I wrote it. She came to me to learn how to code. However, she didn’t want to learn to code. She just wanted to copy code from me. She couldn’t understand why her Hello World wouldn’t compile because she didn’t have a main, semicolons, or braces. Even with me trying to teach her this stuff she refused to listen. She just wanted the code. Sadly, I gave it to her. She posts it online and gets praise like the second coming of Christ. Then I have seen guys post their own Hello World programs online, sometimes doing creative things with it, to a few “good jobs” if that.
A second example I saw recently in STEM is when a girl bought an “expensive engineering tool kit” to get into STEM. What she bought was a 5 piece Phillips screwdriver set. One I bought for $5 a few years ago. She claimed it was to work on GPUs and all sorts of stuff. Her engineering tool kit didn’t even have a torx head. She didn’t even know what it was. However, STEM people I followed were retweeting her and cheering her on. They were acting like she just got an A on a senior level computer engineering course. All she did was buy a $5 screwdriver set. For those who don’t understand what this means at all. This is like buying a coloring book but being praised that soon you’ll be Picaso. This is not a heavy investment at all; both at a financial and emotional level. The kicker? It’s been a month since I’ve seen this post and she’s moved on. She didn’t go into STEM. She wanted that dopamine kick and to be called the next Elon Musk because she spent $5, and probably returned it.
I want you to keep those in mind while I go over these next examples. As I mentioned above my Twitter feed is ruined right now. I get no posts from people I follow, only posts that Twitter recommends. One was from a guy, with a lot of followers, who was celebrating being 150 days sober. He had very few interactions. Way less than the girl who bought the $5 screwdriver set. Where a girl was celebrating drinking too much the night before and she crushed the guy with interactions. Most of which were positive. I would like to reiterate this. A man who was getting over alcoholism had way less positive fanfare compared to the girl celebrating her alcoholism the night before.
I know this seems like I am complaining that women have it on easy mode, which isn’t the point. I needed to highlight some examples to show a giant disconnect before continuing. As I stated with the second girl she didn’t continue onto a path of STEM. The girl who copied my code eventually signed up to a computer science class at my college. She spent the entire semester suckering her classmates into doing her coding homework for her and then she failed every test. She tried to claim sexism and inequality but the teacher was a woman. The teacher hated her because she knew what she was doing. In fact, many girls who are actually in tech hate this shit, from my experience. Because for every girl looking for an easy mode tech job does nothing but ruin it for those who do put in the effort to actually get into tech.
It’s not just tech though. I’ve seen it in music, art, science, and everything honestly. I worked for a school that preferred to hire male over female teachers because, as they said, “Male teachers are really serious about teaching. Not only do they do their best to stay up to date they also usually have tons of other things to teach the kids.” They said this because the female teachers didn’t try. Unfinished trainings, texting in class, not being active in class, taking too long of breaks, and more. A lot of the parents wanted a woman to be the teacher for their child, but when they saw how the male classes did the parents wanted to switch. There are tons of lazy female teachers forcing the good female teachers to bust their ass harder than others. I’ve worked with female teachers who busted their asses and they were still being judged by the overwhelming amount of lazy female teachers.
I’m surprised how people don’t see the damage they’re doing by promoting such laziness. You’re not only diminish the real work of very skillful women do but you also make it harder for them to be taken seriously. For every post of a woman doing something actually worthy of such praise you have hundreds that aren’t. So, people get flooded with the idea that women need kiddie gloves. Which means people will think less of women because you gotta promote girl power, no matter what.
Every time I see people promoting such things I actually think less of them overall. They clearly think women need to be treated like kids and can’t preform on the level of men. If you have ever seen a talented woman working super hard to get the recognition she deserves, it is because of this. I see tons of women on Twitter complaining about their YouTube videos, or their work, not being taken seriously and complaining about how they need to work twice as hard as men. Meanwhile, they’re promoting stuff that’s like the first two examples I gave. “YOU GO QUEEN!”, to someone who is holding a soldering iron by the iron saying they’re fixing something. Yes, just like the stock images of women using a soldering iron wrong. (Every word is a different stock image and it took me less than 5 minutes to find them.) I have seen people claim to be soldering while holding it by the iron and they’re being promoted by people who are wondering why people don’t taken women seriously.
Women, and male feminist, keep selling out women for that sweet digital clout. Everyone keeps trying to find the next “up and comer” to promote so they can prove how not sexist they are but they’re doing way more work to promote sexism. You can look at all the YouTubers, and social media personalities, like ItsAGundam that are growing a giant anti-woman mindset. You can see more and more people slowly losing trust in women. Even my mom and sister both think men are better than women at most things. Simply because so many women get falsely, or wrongly, promoted and wind up being scammers/dopamine chasers.
People need to stop doing this. You’re actively screwing over women who can do these things, continuing the stereotype that women need to be treated like kids, encouraging the idea that women don’t need to try as hard, and creating more sexism. By doing this you’re also actively encouraging women to not try as hard. You’re not setting them up for that first giant hurdle. Lots of people who give up at the first hurdle were always the ones who were treated like kids and promoted in this way. This is true of both men and women. If you get a cookie for every step you take and you get a cookie for climbing a tree then you’ll never want to climb the tree because you can just get more cookies by walking. Everyone needs to understand that’s the same thing here.
I see this all the time, due to my Twitter feed breaking. Name a thing and I see women getting cookies for taking baby steps but men struggling will be ignored. Hell sometimes I see women getting cookies for doing worse than baby steps. News stories keep coming out about men feeling disenfranchised and not wanting to participate in society anymore and people are wondering why. A lot of men are emotionally neglected and they see women being promoted as “THE FUTURE OF X” for simply taking selfies in an outfit. Then the women give up and hurt the credibility of currently women in that field. If you really want to be a feminist then be critical of women. If you really want women to be taken seriously in STEM then don’t go promoting people for simple shit. If you really want society as a whole to improve on social issues you need to stop this crap. Sometimes people need to go through the mud like you did because they’ll set you back way more than you put them forward.